How to Cope When Your Relationship Ends

Do you want to learn how to cope when your relationship ends? The pain is the same whether it’s the end of a dating relationship or a marriage.

You’re feeling alone and at a loss for what to do. Your partner was the person you turned to for support, love, understanding, and companionship, and now they are gone.

You are left with a great deal of pain, anger, confusion, regret, and many other emotions. You feel as though you can’t function properly and may be obsessed with thoughts of the person you are no longer with.

How do you overcome this loss and return to where you feel like yourself and are once again happy?
You can return to a healthier, happier life through a healing process.

Grieving Stages After a Breakup

When a relationship ends, there are grieving stages that follow.

At first, you may not believe what has happened and be in denial.

Then you may start to feel a sense of anger at the person who left.

You may bargain and feel deep sadness about what could have been.

As you pass through these normal stages of grief, acceptance of the situation will eventually set in over time.

Despite your initial desire to numb your emotions after a breakup, it’s important to feel them.

You will want to steer away from the discomfort.

You know it’s harmful to bury your pain in work, drinking, or a new relationship.

Strategies to Cope

Instead, focus on healing by surrounding yourself with supportive and encouraging people because they will motivate you to move forward to be happy again. It is the first step on how to cope when your relationship ends.

Another helpful way to cope is to reflect on what can be learned from the relationship.

By focusing on what you have learned, you can appreciate the positive aspects and gain insight into what you do and do not want in your next romantic partnership.

Focus on yourself and the things you love to do that you couldn’t find time to do while in the relationship.

 Focus on these things; over time, it will get easier to deal with the painful feelings you are experiencing.

Soon those painful feelings will become less and less powerful.

If you are stuck in any of the stages of grief or have difficulty processing your breakup, talking to a counselor can help.

A counselor can help you recognize grief stages and clarify what positive coping strategies will benefit you.

A clear plan makes it easier to avoid negative coping strategies resulting in unhealthy behaviors.

Call one of our counselors at 250-212-5160, and we will be happy to support you.