Couples Counselling

Finding a partner to share your dreams, joys, adventures, and sorrows is one of the most satisfying and beautiful things we can experience.  That is why it is so heartbreaking if this connection loses its luster and depth. Our busy lives with daily stress and demands can chip away at our relational satisfaction, leaving us feeling lonely or trapped.  Counselling can help put the spark back into your relationship. 

We are trained using the Gottman method of couples counselling, where interventions are designed to help couples strengthen their relationships in three primary areas: friendship, conflict management, and the creation of shared meaning. Couples learn to replace negative conflict patterns with positive interactions and to repair past hurts. Interventions designed to increase closeness and intimacy are used to improve friendship, deepen emotional connection, and create changes which enhance the couple’s shared goals. 

The goals of Gottman Method Couples Therapy are to disarm conflicting verbal communication, increase intimacy, respect, and affection, remove barriers that create a feeling of stagnancy in conflicting situations, and create a heightened sense of empathy and understanding within the context of the relationship.

Some of the relationship issues that may be addressed in therapy include:

  • Frequent conflict and arguments

  • Poor communication

  • Emotionally distanced couples on the verge of separation

  • Specific problems such as sexual difficulties, infidelity, money, and parenting

Couples Counsellors

Wendy Blancher



Wendy is based in Kelowna and provides counselling services in-person or online. To read more about Wendy, please click the button below.

Connie Lupichuk


Connie is based in Penticton and provides counselling services in-person or online. To read more about Connie, please click the button below.

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If you feel you could be a good fit to join Incentive Counselling, please reach out to us!