Helping Families Navigate Separation, Divorce, and Co-parenting Challenges

After years of working with families experiencing separation and divorce, it became clear that traditional counselling services fell short of addressing some of the harmful effects of this type of loss. In some cases, traditional methods were actually causing more harm than good.

Specialized training to address communication difficulties and evidence-based programming are the pillars of intervention for the whole family. Early intervention is preventative, but unfortunately many families end up entrenched in high conflict court battles resulting in long term emotional, psychological harm to both children and parents, not to mention the addition of financial stress.

New Ways for Families®

Incentive Counselling has adapted the New Ways for Families® program to meet the unique needs of children and parents.

New Ways for Families® is a structured program designed by Bill Eddy from the High Conflict Institute and is offered world wide. The programs  are proven to have significant positive outcomes for separating and divorcing couples and most importantly, the children who may be caught in the middle.

The intent of the program is to reduce the impact of separation/divorce on children and teach parents to effectively negotiate. Improved communication prevents excess reliance on courts and litigation. This reduces the financial burden of divorce, prevents an adversarial relationship, and creates a healthier environment for your child/ren.

Our program has been adapted to ensure quality program delivery and has an added component aimed to reduce the harmful impacts of divorce on children. Studies show that it is not separation that harms children, but excess conflict that can follow separation.  Protecting your children is a critical aspect of our programs.

Incentive Counselling High Conflict Program

Parent Program

Parents have opportunities within the course to practice and strengthen skills to encourage positive future behavior.

Parents that complete the New Ways for Families® program provide information to the court that parents are able to successfully demonstrate skills to co-parent successfully.  It can also provide information about those that require further intervention.

Course Components

  • 6 sessions each – individual parent and counsellor
  • 3 sessions each – individual parent and child/ren

Children’s Program

Our exclusive children’s program is designed to accommodate all of your children in each session, regardless of age. The sessions help them to process the changes in their family and teach them healthy ways to manage and express emotions and thoughts.

Topics addressed in the sessions are changes in family dynamic, overcoming challenges associated with divorcing parents (strategies to stay out of the middle), feelings associated with parental separation, healthy management of strong feelings, critical thinking skills, and  helpful coping strategies.

Course Components

6 sessions – counsellor and all children in the family.

Pre-Mediation Coaching

This course is designed for anyone preparing to enter mediation.  The focus is to help you learn to manage your emotions and stay calm, make proposals and decisions that will last.  The course provides important points about mediation and provides opportunities to learn and practice 4 valuable skills to navigate the mediation process effectively.

Course Components:  3 – 4 individual 60 minute sessions

Decision Skills

New Ways for Families® Decision Skills course is a structured program designed to help parents strengthen decision-making skills during separation and divorce.  This will bring more stability to your life.  The course can be accessed by parents that have children or not.  The focus is on four key decision making skills which can prepare you for mediation and/or court.


Course Components: 3 – 90 minute sessions each

Divorce Coaching

Divorce can be a painful and emotional experience.  A divorce coach can help you organize your goals, map out how you want to navigate your divorce, and help you work through the inevitable issues that will arise as you go through this process.  Divorce is extremely stressful and emotions can be overwhelming. A professional will assist you in managing your emotions, preparing proposals, prepare you handle difficult spouses and your fears of going through this experience.

Divorce Coaching is offered on an “as needed” basis.